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Updated: Jan 12, 2022

Sometimes I need only to stand wherever I am to be blessed ... Mary Oliver

Something about the word lost or loss, usually irks my brain cells and most especially my spirit. Especially when it is used negatively in the context of love. I once dated a guy who wrote - "YOU LOST" when we separated. There are so many songs, stories, poems, movies that promote the concept of loss. Examples of sentiments are : you don't know what you lost, you have missed out on the best thing ever by letting me go or I feel such a loss for not having you. You may have said or felt one of these sentiments before.

Ps- I've said some of these in my mind before too :-)

I wanted to question whether we should consider the end of relationships in the terms of loss or could we balance the experience with other ideals and ideas.

I believe that love should be a free space where both parties can make decisions that feel authentic to their spirit. Based on this, if a decision is made that means a relationship ends; then the situation may be unfortunate but the future is a place where a new opportunity is unfolding. Is this a blessing or a loss?

I also believe that by the time someone seeks to end a relationship it means that they are not finding what they expected or desire in the other person. Alternatively, the pair have failed to find a way to build a healthy relationship together. In this space ending the relationship provides a platform for both parties to discover more of what each person wants and doesn't want. This information can be used to define new love and new relationships. Is this a blessing or a loss ?

If all else has failed and the separation allows a couple to maintain a healthy family or community circle where they both have the opportunity to find peace and happiness; is this a blessing or a loss?

My conclusion is that sometimes it is better to stand where we are blessed than where calamity and pain befalls us. It is hard living a life pretending to be alright on the surface when there is pain screaming inside our bodies. When a relationship ends, navigate the landscape with a curious mind and heart. You may find unexpected treasures ! Is this a blessing or a loss?

This is just a thought. Looking forward to yours...

In Love

Always xxx


Remember you can never lose what is meant for you. What is yours is always yours by divine will and grace.

“All that is mine by Divine Right is now released and reaches me in great avalanches of abundance, under grace in miraculous ways.” - Florence Scovel Shinn

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